Carrot Coffee Cake | & Embracing Self-Trust🥕🍰✨
I almost didn’t post this carrot coffee cake. I thought it looked too ugly, and I was worried that if I shared it, I’d be met with criticism—or worse, silence.
The truth is, I remade this cake four times, trying to make it look more aesthetic, even though I was happy with how it tasted from the very first try. But I got caught up in what others might think and whether it would perform well. And while that’s a valid concern— considering this is my job—I also need to trust my judgement more and let go of perfectionism when it comes to my work.
So, here it is: my slightly odd-looking but delicious carrot coffee cake🧡 It’s incredibly soft and moist, with warm spices, a rich cream cheese layer, and a crunchy streusel topping that ties it all together. It may not be picture-perfect, but I promise it tastes even better than it looks.
Scroll down for the full recipe!🥕🍰
How often do you catch yourself asking for others’ opinions and thoughts on something before making a decision? Whether it’s what outfit to wear, what pictures you should post on Instagram, or even what job to take. So many of us look to others for guidance because we trust their opinions more than our own. We feel the need to ask for permission before moving forward—even when we already know the answer or path we want to take.
Whenever I experiment with a new content style, attempt a recipe I’ve never tried before, or start a new project, I get too caught up in needing others to validate it because my own validation doesn’t feel good enough or trustworthy enough. Even if my first reaction to a new project or idea is excitement or alignment, I still doubt myself. That’s when I realized: I’m constantly second-guessing my own judgment and intuition.
Almost always, our first feeling about something is right. But overthinking, anxiety, past memories and future worries cloud our minds. That’s when we seek others’ opinions because we’re so afraid to trust ourselves. We fear that if we go with our gut, it will lead to failure. But in my opinion, trusting others over ourselves is the real failure.